Little trick when calling a girl for drinks or something

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Jacques79

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Even though I try not to care and ''play the game'', when a girl calls me and asks to go get a drink and I say fine, sometimes she says:

''is it ok if I bring my girlfriend x along?''

Then I respond by saying it's ok, thinking that she doesn't want the atmosphere to be to much like a date.

But then sometimes she calls back an hour later saying:

''sorry my friend x can't make it...maybe we should get a drink another time?''

So I obviously cannot tell her ''let's just go alone the two of us''...

This situation makes the guy feel as if the girl just wants to friends and nothing more. I don't know if it's happened to you guys before, but it has happened to me once and I honestly felt like crap afterwards, LOL

So now let's turn the tables. Next time a girl gives you her number and you want to call to set up a date, AFTER you both agree on the place and time, mention calmly:

''oh by the way, my friend x is coming along (make it 2 guy friends so that she feels like she is one of the boys and NOT a date)''

She will never object to someone coming along to the restaurant-lounge or whatever, but she will feel disappointed that you don't consider as dating potential and just want to chill with her for nothing more.

Then an hour later call and tell her your guys friends can't make it so it would be better to go another time. She will ask herself a million questions and second-guess your sexual attraction to her. Win.

Wait a week, then call again and do the same thing when you mention your guys friends are coming along. Only mention this after she has agreed to go to a restaurant or get a drink with you thinking you'd be all alone.

Then before the outing tell your guy friends to leave 1 hour into the meal-drink because something came up, and then you are all alone with the girl you want that will be thinking to herself:

''finally now we're alone I hope he starts being more flirty-treating me like a date''.

I will be more easy to create sexual tension from then on.

Bonus points if you are making her laugh when you are alone with her and see that she is having a great time and interested in you and you look at your watch and say: ''ahhh I didn't see the time fly by, I have to meet someone, I got to go but we'll continue our discussion on x some other time''

*edit: don't be mean in your attitude, the object is not to insult the girl, but ease the stress of a first date...



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That's a nice way to turn it around but I think you're complicating things for nothing really. Prevent the situation from happening right from the start. Before getting together for the first time, on your first phone call, call her up, chit chat for two minutes max, then tell hey you just wanted to know how she was doing and tell her goodbye w/o making any plans.

That will make her wonder about many things.
 
Zathan said:
That's a nice way to turn it around but I think you're complicating things for nothing really. Prevent the situation from happening right from the start. Before getting together for the first time, on your first phone call, call her up, chit chat for two minutes max, then tell hey you just wanted to know how she was doing and tell her goodbye w/o making any plans.

That will make her wonder about many things.
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That's also an excellent trick but I thought it was something all the guys did so I just wanted to throw out an idea that may be less used;)
 
Admiral_Nub said:
or you can just say you'd love to **** her and stop this faggoty mind game shit
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Seduction is game. What I proposed is maybe a little too much, but when you end up kissing-sleeping with a girl you really want it's often the result of a certain form of ''mind game'' on your behalf. Think back to all the girls you kissed or something. It's often the result of some form a mid game created by you, even if you didn't do it intentionally. Thing is to not look desperate or TOO interested in a girl.

Tell a girl straight up: ''you have nice eyes and lips I want to kiss you so badly'' and forget it. UNLESS you are both very very drunk or you're in an all-inclusive. Or if you spent tons of time with her on a long night and you're both watching the sun come up from the inside of your car :)D)

And for me slowly building attraction with a girl is sometimes more fun then when I actually end up with her.

I just think it's fun. I find guys are often too direct with a girl and it's sooooo obvious when a guy just wants to sleep with a girl in the way he talks to her. You know, the guy that comes up to a girl with a huge smile and eyes open SUPER wide and they he asks her if he can buy her a drink; when I see guys like that I always think to myself: ''discusting pedophile''.
 
It's not a guarantee that you will get some. It's just to make the girl understand that you're not soooooooooooooooo into her that you absolutely want to go on a typical ''date'' as soon as possible.

Girls are unsure about going to a restaurant with someone they don't know who might end up being boring-psycho or something, or if the guy is too obvious in his interest.

I as a guy have felt disappointed when a girl did this number on me, and who knows why she did it, but I imagine that if a guy did it on a chick the chick would feel kind of the same way.

It's not to be mean to the girl, it's just to be a little different than 99% of the guys that have called the girl you are about to call.
 
does playing hard to get really work, I mean it's usually the guys who "like" the chase...
Personally I hate mind games, I'm pretty straight forward and simple, if I start complicating things imagine the things she might come up with after lol
 
bertuzzi said:
does playing hard to get really work, I mean it's usually the guys who "like" the chase...
Personally I hate mind games, I'm pretty straight forward and simple, if I start complicating things imagine the things she might come up with after lol
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yes it really does

nice guys finish last ALL DAY.

ive been nice to girls, and they dont want shit to do with me.. maybe be my friend.. but by the tone of this thread, thats not what we're going for...

all the girls i was more raw with, played around and teased with, was more real with, definitely appreciated it, and wanted me for one of 3 reasons, my body, my olive skin, or the fact that im don juan IRL

and as for the 2nd part, have a 'safe line' for everything.. a 'comeback' if you will.. something programmed in your head for every situation, because you dont want to hesitate, you want to be confident, in control, be funny, and make her realize youve got other things on your mind...

the rest is like jacques said, creating sexual tension/aka chemistry

another key is, dont care if she says no, youre important and have a great life to worry about
 
bertuzzi said:
does playing hard to get really work, I mean it's usually the guys who "like" the chase...
Personally I hate mind games, I'm pretty straight forward and simple, if I start complicating things imagine the things she might come up with after lol
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99.9% of girls will...scratch that....100% of all girls will say they HATE games and just want guys to be straight up and simple.

''ah I'm so tired of guys playing games, they are so annoying, blablabla''

This is because in theory the rational part of their brain is actually tired of games and they would like to find a guy they can settle down with. But when they meet someone their instinct kicks in and the rational part of their brain is taken over by their true desire.

That rational part of the brain kicks back in full steem just before you're about to have sex when they are hesitating as wether or not it's worth it to sleep with you. But it should shut off after a few minutes of you making her feel comfortable enabling her to have a pleasurable experience. Or else she'll feel stressed and it won't be fun for anyone.

girls want what they can't have; you need to show them that you aern't that easy and willing to do anything they want.

think about it, would you be attracted to someone that you know for 100% sure she realllllllllyyyyyyy wants to date you?

or would you feel like making more of an effort with that cute girl who you have difficulty seeing if she's interested or not.

We all would love to make a girl that seems indifferent to us feel suddenly attracted to us. Same thing applies to the other gender.
 
As a girl, I think it would absolutly work with me. A first date is often so stressful that you cannot know more about the person you're with and end up as unsure about your fellings than before the date, morefore when you've never been with this guy. That's why we want to bring our girl friends.

But in this case it's more effective because it's the boy who brought a friend, which confuse her about is intentions. The minute the girl thinks he might not want to date her but just be her friend, she'll wonder why and try to seduce him to regain the control she usually have over guys.

We don't say we hate mind games because we do, we say that because most guys are very bad at it and their game is so obvious that the look like horny teenagers. A good player is attractive because it means he understands the female mind and we all like smart guys.

So yeah, good trick! :)
 
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