The Self Development Thread

Stratman335 said:
I'm getting closer to quitting smoking but its so hard to completely stop it.
I'm able to last longer and longer without one and I'm hoping eventually ill be able to just chew gum instead
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Toothpicks help. Yeah you look like some kind of mob wannabe chewing on your toothpick but it helped me quite a bit.
 
over the last few months i've been eating more and more vegetables and cutting booze and caffeine. i've never felt better. also, i've been following this site for a while now and it has honestly changed my life. go all the way to the very first page and start from there. he's also recently put out a book and its amazing too.
 
Quit drinking completely on March 16th 2010, dont smoke and never eat fast food. Started snowboarding and skateboarding again back in 2010 as well for the fun and cardio aspect of it. I work out at home 4 days a week to try and keep my old ass in shape lol. My only demon right now is a need something sweet after meal!
 
I am trying to become as manly as possible and live the virtous life.


  1. “TEMPERANCE. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.”
  2. “SILENCE. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.”
  3. “ORDER. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.”
  4. “RESOLUTION. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.”
  5. “FRUGALITY. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.”
  6. “INDUSTRY. Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.”
  7. “SINCERITY. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.”
  8. “JUSTICE. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.”
  9. “MODERATION. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.”
  10. “CLEANLINESS. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.”
  11. “TRANQUILLITY. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.”
  12. “CHASTITY. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.”
  13. “HUMILITY. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.”
 
I like that whole list.

Another thing I started doing is spending more time with my parents and siblings. Instead of seeing friends all the time, sometimes i'll just post up at home with the family instead.
 
Nice thread OP, this need to get going.

as for my part, I've starting my first Bike building project

and I'm desperately trying to get better sleep (Just downloaded the Sleep cycle app) and to get the motivation to start the gym again.
 
MadDude said:
I dont know you but here is my advice to you.

DO NOT SKIP any part of your '' deuil '' ( wtf is the word in english , Mourning? )

I did skip these parts when my father died 12 years ago and i still suffer from this choise.

12 Years passed by and i cant even go to the cemetary yet because i buried these bad feeling inside instead of living them at the right time.

And i know the gym help , but do not use it to convert your bad feelings into energy , its not the good way to get rid of them , good luck!
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Ouais, malheureusement c'est exactement ce que je fais depuis qu'elle est décédée... J'ai tout fais pour ne pas avoir à vivre le deuil, pis dernièrement ça m'a éclaté en pleine face et là c'est encore pire. Bref, j'ai fait la même erreur que toi.
 
Is the sleep cycle app any useful OP? I'm interested in it but I'm not quite sure about it's effiency.

Btw what i'm trying to upgrade:

Quit smoking

Good diet - I already started. Always cooking healthy recipes. Helped alot on my mood and energy

Exercise - Was a sports addict couple of years ago then got a full time job and totally removed sports from my routine. At this time i was a total mess and i still am one but trying to get on the right way(too much alcohol, not enought sleep, and other crap) I gotta say the worst was that I loved too much snow white -_-. I'm really really not proud of myself at the moment and kinda feel like a garbage and a waste of time...

But like i said i'm slowly getting on the right way...Well atleast i'm trying to! I'm really really motivated now! In the past 4 months i've gained 15 pound of total fat taking from 154 to 169 pounds at 5'11. People tells me I'm not fat at all but i think i look fat. I feel like I am ''mou'' and not healthy at all. But in the last month I've lost all of those extra pounds only with a good diet! Really happy of it :D

And last thing i want to cut drastically is alcohol and it's starting this week! Was going at bars like 4-5x a weeks and i could spend between 3-500 buck a week in bars...if not more. I don't want to cut it down to zero alcohol but I'm aiming at something like 2-3x max a week and not getting drunk like a mofo everysingle time i go to bars.

So in general what i really need is selfcontrol. I really got to learn that because whenever i look further than the next week all I see for my future is nothing really good...

Yeah I know i may look like some punk squeegee according to my text but i'm not as bad looking as that :p still I gotta improve myself.

Edit: And no I'm not BS a.k.a total waste on welfare! I have a good job and good family only lacking judgement.
 
Stratman335 said:
He was just kidding man relax lol
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well, he always comes up with this boring ''joke'' not everyone from sorel is a total retard. Only the fact that i'm able to speak a decent level of english while 90% of the people in here can't say more than ''yes, no, toaster'' prove that I'm that that much of a BS :)
 
guys im all for joking around and all, but keep this one thread positive and post constructive comments
 
-Meditation every night before bed, working on expanding my consciousness. Some of dat hippy shit son! I've noticed since I started, I wake up on the right side of the bed, I'm able to think more clearly and I'm happier in general.
-Stopped snoozing my alarm in the morning, it was getting to a point where I would set my alarm an hour early to snooze. I just let it ring and lie in bed, the noise eventually wakes me up instead of snoozing
-Waking up at the same time every morning regardless of what time I go to bed, even when I can sleep in. I read this is the best way to regulate sleeping patterns.
-30 min jog and push ups and sit ups before my morning shower
-Bought a small note pad I carry everywhere to write stuff down in, helps me get organized
 
DJD&G said:
Is the sleep cycle app any useful OP? I'm interested in it but I'm not quite sure about it's effiency.

Btw what i'm trying to upgrade:

Quit smoking

Good diet - I already started. Always cooking healthy recipes. Helped alot on my mood and energy

Exercise - Was a sports addict couple of years ago then got a full time job and totally removed sports from my routine. At this time i was a total mess and i still am one but trying to get on the right way(too much alcohol, not enought sleep, and other crap) I gotta say the worst was that I loved too much snow white -_-. I'm really really not proud of myself at the moment and kinda feel like a garbage and a waste of time...

But like i said i'm slowly getting on the right way...Well atleast i'm trying to! I'm really really motivated now! In the past 4 months i've gained 15 pound of total fat taking from 154 to 169 pounds at 5'11. People tells me I'm not fat at all but i think i look fat. I feel like I am ''mou'' and not healthy at all. But in the last month I've lost all of those extra pounds only with a good diet! Really happy of it :D

And last thing i want to cut drastically is alcohol and it's starting this week! Was going at bars like 4-5x a weeks and i could spend between 3-500 buck a week in bars...if not more. I don't want to cut it down to zero alcohol but I'm aiming at something like 2-3x max a week and not getting drunk like a mofo everysingle time i go to bars.

So in general what i really need is selfcontrol. I really got to learn that because whenever i look further than the next week all I see for my future is nothing really good...

Yeah I know i may look like some punk squeegee according to my text but i'm not as bad looking as that :p still I gotta improve myself.

Edit: And no I'm not BS a.k.a total waste on welfare! I have a good job and good family only lacking judgement.
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sleep cycle is legit. It uses the motion sensor in your phone to detect if you're moving around or not. Say you set your alarm for 8am; itll start looking for your lightest sleep at 7:30, then if you want to snooze, you can, but the intervals get shorter and shorter, so by 8am, you're fully awake.

Also, look back at this post in a while and see if you made any improvements.
 
Another habit I picked up is cleaning more frequently. I'm not saying I was filthy before, but now i'll tidy things up around my room and bathroom daily instead of letting any mess build up. There's nothing better than walking into your room when it's nice and clean.
 
Tech-Boy said:
-Meditation every night before bed, working on expanding my consciousness. Some of dat hippy shit son! I've noticed since I started, I wake up on the right side of the bed, I'm able to think more clearly and I'm happier in general.
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The benefits are too long to list.

I'm going to the buddhist center in Quebec, they have group sessions which I really want to try. I did it by myself for a while last year and I found that my whole metabolism slowed down dramatically.

I was struggling to gain mass back then and I wanted to find a way to eliminate stress at the same time. Slowing down my body by meditating allowed me to gain 10 pounds in a few weeks without any diet change. I was staggered by this. I was basically burning calories just by being so mentally breakneck all the time.

My head alone was melting down everything else. The brain alone is a fucking insane energy hog.
 
DJD&G said:
well, he always comes up with this boring ''joke'' not everyone from sorel is a total retard. Only the fact that i'm able to speak a decent level of english while 90% of the people in here can't say more than ''yes, no, toaster'' prove that I'm that that much of a BS :)
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I just got a mental image of people walking around mindlessly saying "yes"
"Toaster" in sorel lol
 
cassard said:
Nice thread OP, this need to get going.

as for my part, I've starting my first Bike building project

and I'm desperately trying to get better sleep (Just downloaded the Sleep cycle app) and to get the motivation to start the gym again.
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More info. What frame and where did you buy it? Thinking of doing the same
 
Tech-Boy said:
-Meditation every night before bed, working on expanding my consciousness. Some of dat hippy shit son! I've noticed since I started, I wake up on the right side of the bed, I'm able to think more clearly and I'm happier in general.
-Stopped snoozing my alarm in the morning, it was getting to a point where I would set my alarm an hour early to snooze. I just let it ring and lie in bed, the noise eventually wakes me up instead of snoozing
-Waking up at the same time every morning regardless of what time I go to bed, even when I can sleep in. I read this is the best way to regulate sleeping patterns.
-30 min jog and push ups and sit ups before my morning shower
-Bought a small note pad I carry everywhere to write stuff down in, helps me get organized
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iv'e been reading up about meditation lately. Iv'e also had a class that we talked about our feelings and sat on pillows. We would meditate for like 10 minutes at the beginning of every class. At first I could never get my mind into that "state". but towards the end I think i started grasping it. But I know personally that I have a lot of trouble with it.

Any tips?
 
Fkn awesome thread, in the middle of this exact process and trying to change a lot of things.

Used to be in awesome shape (6'1 180, hockey player) then just stopped sports, started drinking, partying and eating like shit got a solid beer belly. So just signed back up at the gym looking to get fit again, doing 5 days a week. Changed my diet completely i.e no junk food, nothing but water and no fried foods/sweets.

Noticed I was starting to drink way too much and using it as a sort of escape. Felt I neended to be wasted to have a good time in life and I never used to be that way. So trying to go out less and not get crazy wasted when I go out (in the afterhours scene a lot so kind of harder)

Biggest one is my financial/employment situation. Used to be (till about a year ago) a pretty high level poker player and that was my only source of income. Had some pretty nice scores but got very money greedy and made some really bad business choices with the wrong kind of people and essentially blew my entire roll. Was killing me cause I miss the lifestyle so much and now stuck working again for regular wages..slowly putting aside money from every pay check into a "saving" and when I reach a certain amount gonna start playing again.

Think sharing these things is a big step/motivator.
 
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